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We moved into a new home just six weeks ago. It’s ours. Not someone else’s, to whom we pay a fee to stay there each month. No, it’s ours. We bought it, lock, stock and barrel.
And now we take ownership of it. It’s a process. There are echoes of the people who owned it before us…the dreadful turquoise paint in one of the boys’ room (I’m sure it was his choice), the broken fence where the dog tried so hard to get out, the sunken horseshoe pit, almost covered by grasses, and the aura of warmth and care inside that said it was well-loved by its family.
Now it’s our turn. There is something so satisfying about making a space your own. In my childhood home, I shared a small bedroom with my older sister. There wasn’t much room for “ownership”, but my bunk could be mine, just by how I made my bed, or the blanket I chose. In my college dorm, I started to be more creative. Daisies and blue and white and yellow. My mom made me a soft comforter for my bed and I made curtains for the windows. It said “Connie” when I opened the door.
I wandered about for years after that, but each place I landed, I made it my own in the simplest but most satisfying ways.
After I married, we jumped up to designing and building our own home. I got to decide the size and layout of my kitchen, the wallpaper, the cabinet stain color. It was there I discovered I loved geometrics. Gone were the daisies, but I hung on to the blue and white and yellow.
Jump to this month. It’s different this time because we’re moving into someone else’s beloved space. But because we chose this house over a myriad of others, there are many things we love. The blue and white is here, the hardwood floors, the many, very large windows.
Gary takes possession of the house by fixing things. Every lightbulb in the house has been changed out, he built me a pantry (the delights of a pantry are surprising), replaced the refrigerator produce bin, mended the broken slat in the blinds, and replaced the outside doorknobs with keyless entry so I won’t lock myself out again!
Me? I walk around day after day and absorb the house. My huge office window looks out to a bird-loving tree, where I look up from my computer and see the brilliant red cardinal, or the chickadee hanging upside down from a seed pod. I have found the perfect place to stand in the living room to see both bird feeders in the back yard at the same time – and it’s right over a floor register so I can get warmed or cooled at the same time!
I take possession of my kitchen by baking. Not just cooking, but baking. I’ve made cinnamon raisin bread, muffins, cinnamon rolls, pistachio cake, cornbread and pumpkin bread. Now it is my kitchen.
And we’ve welcomed guests to our house. This, too, is a rite of ownership. Our kids and grandkids were here at Christmas, when we had been here for only a week. We were able to find the Christmas tree, stockings, a wreath for the door and candles. We also were able to locate enough bedding for everyone. What more does one need?
Friends from New England stopped by (going an hour and half out of their way) on their way home from down south. A neighbor from my childhood who we hadn’t seen in 45 years, came for dinner. And my coffee rota friends came.
The joys of my house are soul-satisfying. The outside is as beautiful as the inside. It being winter, we have yet to discover all the outside holds. Trees I don’t know, plants dead now – what will they be this spring? It’s a nearly flat landscape – we’ve never had a flat landscape before! And the birds have all come to visit my feeders, told their friends, who told their friends, and are now part of my new bird clan.
Today I opened another box that had sat in storage and uncovered some of my bits and bobbles. Some I had forgotten I owned. They made me smile. Others I think I’ve outgrown, and a few I just don’t have the heart to put out again. So today was a day of finding treasures and finding new places to put them in this house. I will say goodbye to a few “other Connie” bobbles, but most will gain a new beauty in a new house.
Gary and I go about our days, each doing the things that connect us to our new house. Gary’s eyes are always straying to another thing he needs to fix, or figure out how it works. I watch the sunlight move around the house, try a mirror here or there, try to gauge if I have too many birds or beach decor for my inland Virginia home.
I like the Brits’ use of the word homely. Not ugly or plain as we Americans would mean it, but homey. It just sounds better – homely. Our house is becoming homely.
There is something very comforting, joyful and grounding about taking ownership of your space. Maybe it’s exaggerated because the world is so chaotic now, we need to find something that is within our control.
This is within our control. We can decide if we like matchy things or if we like five different styles in one room. We can put mid-Century modern chairs with ladder back country chairs at our painted and stained drop leaf dinette table, next to our old oak dresser that holds linens.
When we finish a day, we can settle in front of the fireplace (another first), look at each other and say, “it’s been a good day.”
Our house is homely.